The subtle act of sometimes giving a f***

 

If you've read Mark Manson's September 2016 book - "THE SUBTLE ACT OF NOT GIVING A F*CK", I think you already get the idea of what this blogpost is going to be about. So adjust your reading position cause this is going to be some ride.

It's not wrong to want to live life on your terms, trust me it can be thrilling wanting to do things your way and actually getting to do it that way. People will always have an opinion about how you should have things done in your life, and if you're Nigerian, born and raised in the typical family setting, believe me you, you're never going to get the end of it. 

Most times we really do not want to listen to other people's take on the issues that ordinarily should concern just us, and when they start their talk, all we can hear is Burna Boy singing "Another story o, story o, story o" in the background.

Actions have consequences, and these consequences do not necessarily have to be negative. We can never please everyone and if we even try one bit to be a people pleaser it will backfire like the time SamKlef tried to drag Wizkid FC. Also, no matter how well we do things, there will always be criticism. 

Most times, especially in this social media era, there is a lot of toxicity and we try to zone it all out by not giving a flying f*** what people have to say, but when this criticisms are constructive, we need to sometimes give alot of f***s. Like a lot of them. A buckload of them.

You do not have to necessarily take advice from everybody, but there are persons whose advice you need to hear. Not just advice, criticism too, because from them you can make better decisions and tweak the ones you've made already. So who can we listen to? - We all have persons in our lives who genuinely care about us and if you're one of those 'Fake Friends' crusaders, then you can at least listen to family.

There are people who genuinely want the best for you, not everybody is as toxic as you Osas, you hear? There are people that actually care and when they point out what they feel is a flaw on your part, don't be quick to dismiss them and label them 'Enemies of progress' or 'Village people'. Take a step back and actually evaluate what you've heard and see if you can actually do better if the need be.

And that my dear friends, is THE SUBTLE ACT OF SOMETIMES GIVING A F***

But some people nor still get sense o, so nor be everybody you go listen to.