Betrayal Or "When you chop knife for back!"

 

Once more, it's that period in time when a certain disciple betrayed his master, thousands of years ago and all for "the bag!".

This behaviour, _if we are to pick anything from this disciple/master debacle_, is as old as time.

One might even dare say that it is a primal part of the human genome, because of course, we've all fucked up... at some point or not yet..

(Remember when your best friend told you a secret and you passed it on to your other best friend while urging him/her not to divulge to another person?!.. Yes, I'm talking to you... Keep scrolling but carry your sub along sha!)

Betrayal defies all bonds, relationships, creeds, oaths, you - name - it....

People indulge it for a variety of reasons too

It's just like Berlin from Money heist said; "Betrayal doesn't depend on how or how much you love someone. It depends on the magnitude of the dilemma before you".

Suffix it to say; inherently, people would betray others if presented an enticing opportunity or a difficult situation.

But should being an inherent part of humanity be reason enough for people to betray others?, I think not.

Well, seeing as not a lot of people may agree with my school of thought(most of all Judas),  I think it is pertinent that we talk about how to handle ourselves and all that we feel in the aftermath of a betrayal.

I have come to realize that those iron heavy feeling of disappointment or hurt often stems from our own high expectations of others. We expect people to be loyal. We expect them to treat us differently; special...

Someone once asked when was the best time to start dating again after a breakup and someone else replied "2 weeks before the breakup". 

I'm going to borrow from this 'invaluable lesson' and say something I consider to be in the same WhatsApp group: Do away with expecting anything from people, be it loyalty, reciprocity, kindness, etc if you are to drastically reduce that 'post betrayal stage of resentful feelings. 

Surely, the betrayals will happen but all that 'thick skin' won't let the knife get to your heart.

I also think it might help to talk with the person who betrayed you. Air out your feelings, hurt, disappointments, etc. 

But this might not go well for some people who are 'quick to slap/punch a jerk'.

Not all of us can handle this 'social dilemma' as graciously as Jesus did and some never even recover from it.

This topic makes for a much lengthier discuss but I'll conclude, for now, with this..

My rule of thumb has always been to; 'hope for the best but always expect the worst'.

What about you, do you have a rule??..

Have you ever had a knife stuck in your back??. How did you get it out??. How did you handle the Judas??.

The comment section is all your's!!